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Name It to Tame It
Ryan's contribution from the conversation. When the old pattern shows up, give it a name and a container.
How it works
- 1Personify the pattern so you can greet it and let it leave.
- 2"Oh, there's Derek. Welcome to breakfast again, Derek."
- 3You are not suppressing the behavior — you are witnessing it without being hijacked by it.
- 4The name creates distance. Distance creates choice.
Hear it on the podcast
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