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The 10 Uncomfortable Conversations Rule
You do not deserve to write a single line of code until you have survived ten customer conversations where you genuinely tried to be told no. Validation is evidence that bruises — not vibes that confirm what you already believe.
How it works
- 1Prepare your questions in advance. Ask without bias. Build a system of records for weak and strong signals.
- 2The goal is not to confirm your hypothesis. The goal is to stress-test it until it either breaks or holds.
- 3Polite interest is a weak signal. Urgency, specificity, willingness to pay, and a request to be notified are strong signals.
- 4When a potential customer simply changes the subject — that is a clear signal there is no problem to solve for them.
- 5Ten conversations is a floor, not a ceiling. Keep going until patterns stop surprising you.
Hear it on the podcast
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